(442 words) Each member of the family is irreplaceable, because our relatives are unique. Often this impossibility of replacement even drives people crazy, as they remain alone, and nothing can change it. It is especially painful to lose parents, and even when someone else is formally present in their place, it is not possible to restore the previous atmosphere in the family, so I agree with the above statement. To confirm my position, I will give examples from books.
Recall F. Dostoevsky’s novel Crime and Punishment. Semen Marmeladov married a widow to help her provide for a family without a breadwinner. The woman already had children, as, indeed, her new husband. Nothing in this union foreshadowed trouble: two mature people came together to help each other. But the couple’s joint life did not work out, and Semen Zakharovich, being a good father for Sonya, could not cope with this role for other children. He could not stand the fallen responsibility and began to drink, having lost his job and the ability to provide for his family. He broke down, and now Katerina Ivanovna was doubly unhappy, because the hungry and perplexed eyes of the children looked at her. The new dad could not replace him with the one they needed and was dear to. Despite all the virtues of a noble man, he failed to become a parent for these kids, and this is confirmed by the fact that it is impossible to find the perfect new candidate for the role of a father. All the same, it will not be that family, not that feeling, and alienation can lead to the fact that adults can not withstand the pressure and break under the pressure of responsibility.
Another example was described by L. N. Tolstoy in the novel War and Peace. Marya Bolkonskaya took up the brother of her brother, who died in the war. She was a very kind woman and a generous mother, because she took care of Nikolushka from birth, when his own mother died. Then Andrew was in battle, and it so happened that in his absence the child was always in the care of his sister. During this time, she became attached to the baby, became a family for him. And even in this case, we are seeing discord: when Marya had her children, she began to worry that she loved her nephew less. And the boy also did not feel completely native, he was all in his father and wanted a repeat of his fate. Despite the presence of an equally brave and courageous adoptive dad, Rostov, the child still could not feel the fullness of his family life and find authority more weighty than his own father. So, in this example, it is impossible to replace one loved one with another.
Thus, family members are indispensable, no matter how hard we try to help orphans. Their loss has happened forever and irretrievably, and therefore all we can do is support and understanding. Do not “reassign” your parents, try to impose on your child the thought of a “new dad”. This is a completely different person, and relations with him can develop well, but never in a relative way.
